From Successfully Raw Issue 84, published today:
This comes in response to the questions emailed to me over the past week where three different ladies described their pain at not doing work they love and/or not knowing their direction. Having been there myself on more than one occasion I can attest to it being one of the most painful chapters of my life - but I can also attest to there being a happy ending!
But before I get into sharing my experience, let's take a moment to look at why this issue is so prevalent among health seekers/ raw foodies, as it most certainly is.
When you go raw you...
- Wake up!
- Become more sensitive (things feel much better or worse depending on what they are)
- Get to hear your own voice more clearly
- Start to be kinder to yourself and the world around you
- Start to believe in a more "magical" way of living and being (because you can feel it running through your veins)
- Feel more pain when things aren't a good fit for you (and don't use food to block that fact out)
- Have more energy to take action
- Are generally more positive and upbeat; you begin to believe (and witness) that anything is possible
- Start to meet others like you and learn through what they have to say and what they have done that there is another way
- Begin to feel brave enough and vital enough to take the action required to make some big changes, if required, in order to be true to you
In fact, the more raw you go, the more "raw" you get... emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually. I have found that it has come to a point where I have very little tolerance for anything that doesn't "work" for me (like a person who is disrespectful or angry, or an aspect of my life that doesn't support me or make me feel good). This is not a Karen phenomenon by any means - as time goes by you simply have to surrender to the way of living that is "being you own best friend" (not a bad way to live, I have to say! Amazing how difficult we find it initially though, non?).
To be clear, no, this doesn't mean becoming a diva or "above your station"! It simply means making choices that FEEL good, that don't entertain negativity and that serve you and those around you because they are good for everyone. The further you go with cleaning up your diet and body the more you will see this play out.
Quite simply raw food brings a physical purity that cannot happily co- exist with a unhappy heart, a muddled mind or a sleeping soul. This last sentence alone sums up why people yo-yo with raw foods for so long as they try to figure out what on earth is going on and also which package they are going to sign up for!
With all this said, I'm going to pass you over now to my blog where I've already published one of the ladies questions along with my answer to her, and the letters and responses to the other two ladies will follow over the weekend (one per day) as well as my own very long and winding personal story of work/life transformation, which, even if I say it myself, I feel is incredibly inspiring : )
I guess you could see it as one of my very many Gratitude Letters to Raw... I'll warn you now though, it won't be a 5 minute read, so you might want to make sure you're sitting comfortably ; ).
Question 1 - Yvonne
Hi Karen: First of all, I want to tell you how much I enjoy your newsletters. When I read your Challenge #2 and you offered your help, I couldn't resist emailing you.
I'll try to explain my quandry. I'm been working at a job I detest for about 8 years now but for a number of reasons have stayed. It's a job where I'm on my feet for 5 hour shifts, 5 days a week. I've had problems with my feet for the past 6 years but there was an improvement after surgery 4 years ago but even after surgery I couldn't work more than 5 hour shifts. The reasons I've stayed are - I'm at top rate now so if I started somewhere else I'd have to work twice as many hours for the same pay. My husband is retiring the end of this year and I'm planning to quit then as well. We're planning to move to Costa Rica, so it doesn't make sense to quit now and try to find something else for such a short time, except I hate going to work and I can't wait for my shift to be over. Other pros, I really like my manager, I get good benefits, three weeks holidays and flexible hours. I'm 56 years old and when I was on vacation in Costa Rica this winter, a week before coming home I broke a bone in my foot. Its been three weeks since I broke it and today I worked my first shift and had to leave early because it was too painful and I was also totally frustrated for no real reason. I'll go to the doctor and see what she says about work but on some level I think my issues with my feet have something to do with my huge dislike for my job. I can't justify quitting and not contributing financially so I think what I really need is an attitude adjustment so I can stick it out for a few more months. Any suggestions!!!
Thanks for taking the time to read this. ~ Yvonne
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Reply from Karen:
Hi Yvonne. Goodness my heart goes out to you. When you read my story in the next day or two I'm sure a few red lights and flashing bulbs will come on for you at various points, but for now, let's look at the issues one by one.
First of all let’s look at the emotions of it all as this is where you began. I’m not sure if you noticed, but I did and I daresay so did our readers - you used the words: “detest”, “hate”, “huge dislike” and “can’t wait for my shift to be over”. Already I am feeling seriously depressed and I’m not even doing the job... : (
Then we have the mind stuff, the rationale and the intellect, which we are all so very good at: “paid top rate now so would have to work twice as many hours elsewhere”, “doesn’t make sense to quit now”, “like my manager”, “good benefits” etc.
I don’t know about you but I wouldn’t say that the second lot of reasons negated the pain of the first, not by a long way.
Now, it’s not my job to tell you what to do (although you know I have my bias, I’m sure!) but let’s look at the facts here: You hate your job. You can’t wait to leave.
Is this any way for ANYONE to spend any portion of their life when life is so abundant, so precious and so waiting to be shaped the way we want it? (Even if you have told yourself it’s only for a little while longer – EVERY second counts! There are other better things out there waiting for you!) Just because you can't see them, it doesn't mean they're not there, trust me!
I know, I know... It is easy to say. But seriously, it is about stepping outside of the Matrix and knowing that you can create an alternative reality that you love. Honestly. You can. I have done it and countless others have done it – and please don’t let any thoughts of “I haven’t got that long left until we move” or “It’s hard to get something else that pays as well” or anything else hold you back. (Even the nicest manager in the world is not the best reason to stay at a job that is putting you into hospital!)
This is what I have witnessed in my own mother for many decades and it has broken my heart to see her keep herself enslaved in this way; every suggestion has a reason why not. While I can see that you and she are very different women, I can also see that it is all too easy for any of us, of any age, gender or situation to think that the grass is seriously wilted on the other side! No, it’s not. You can choose the colour, shape, size and vibrancy of the grass! If you can choose Costa Rica, you can choose better grass, of that I'm sure : )
But before we go any further on this, let’s talk about your beautiful feet : )
There is one book I refer to more than any other during my coaching and it’s not what you might expect. It’s called “Heal Your Body” by Louise Hay and I really do think that everyone should have a copy. It's only £3.99 and it's worth many times more. I recommend it to everyone I possibly can.
Essentially it is a little paperback book listing a gazillion different medical complaints/ conditions arranged in alphabetical order with their metaphysical “cause” listed next to each one followed by a healing affirmation to help turn the situation around.
As soon as I started reading your email I knew the foot thing was no coincidence. I had a similar thing myself just after I handed my notice in on one of my big long-standing London jobs; a small accident with a sharp knife meant that my last three weeks there were spent doing next to nothing as my left arm was in a sling! (How, um, handy...). I knew even back then that I had unconsciously manifested it so that I didn’t have to spend any more energy on that job than the bare minimum. You see my soul had already checked out. And now my body was trying to follow suit, and more quickly than my mind or “time” would allow. These days I don’t need to unconsciously manifest dramas or pain to be true to myself; I just do it right away to save myself the stress later!
But getting back to you.
In Louise’s book here is what it has to say about FEET:
Metaphysical cause: “Represent our understanding – of ourselves, of life, of others.”
Healing affirmation: “My understanding is clear, and I am willing to change with the times. I am safe.”
Please also find here what I got when I pulled a Goddess card for you just now, I think you'll want to hear it! (2 minutes)
Yvonne, from my heart to yours... do we need say more?
By all means, let me know if you think we do. I will coach you all the way to happiness on this one if you’re game and if you haven’t had the “yes” moment already. But keep reading over this weekend as some of the rest of my story still might do the trick for you.
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