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Running the Get Set for 2007 Support Program has been a joy. We still have two of our six sessions left to go, but already it has proved invaluable both to me and to the participants.
Tonight, while “in the flow”, I had a major “insight moment”. I wanted to share it with you. It’s all about emotional eating and the desire to overeat for comfort and suppression reasons. As I know this is so common among people of all ages, backgrounds, eating habits etc., I thought you might be interested. See what you think.
Heart to Mouth
One of the major things that “raw” calls us to do is to step into our power, our energy and our truth. No mean feat at the best of times!
As all of us know, our eating habits have served not only as our source of nourishment and sustenance over our lifetime but also have taken on the role of being our comfort blanket, our sedative, our mood enhancer, our stimulant… and there’s plenty more where those came from!
Those of you who are familiar with chakras will know that the heart – our fourth chakra - is the centre of our truth; it’s the door to what really is – not what we think should be there, not what we hope for, but what is really real. Our truth: our real, live, honest-to-God, whatever-way-you-look-at-it-there's-really-no-denying-it, truth.
Next stop up, our throat chakra. This is where we speak our truth. When we refuse or resist speaking our truth for whatever reason, we can often find throat-related illnesses or symptoms manifesting in the body’s bid to draw attention to the problem.
Channel a tunnel between the two, from the throat down, and what springs to mind? The act of swallowing perhaps? It certainly does for me. And when we swallow foods, drinks or other less-than-great substances that really aren’t those good for us (and we know it!), what do you suppose might happen within our heart? Do you think it might retreat, energetically speaking? Might it feel muffled, drowned out, suffocated somehow? Yes, I really do believe it does. Such is the effect of comfort eating. It’s very often heart-muting masquerading as “giving myself a treat”!
So with raw foods, the channel between the throat and the heart starts to become clearer because a mutually beneficial relationship is formed. The pathway begins to clear, the communication becomes harmonious and then the natural scheme of things dictates that the heart’s “voice” starts to finally grow and expand ready to make audible all that it longs to share. And providing the owner allows it to do so, out it comes through the heart, up the “channel” and out of the throat into audibility.
Now while this scenario is all rather poetic and wonderful, the reality for most people is that they don’t always want to voice what their heart really feels. And this can be for any number of reasons, such as fear of rejection, fear of hurting others, fear of asking for something they won’t get, fear of not being heard and so on. And of course many of us don’t want to own up to our own truths to ourselves either – they have been buried for far too long and far too well underneath the barrage of chocolate chip cookies, burgers, fries, cheese, potatoes, bread and cake, and on occasion topped off with a delicious knickerbockerglory! And while this isn’t always why we eat, it certainly comes into play at least, I would say, 75% of the time we eat for reasons not related to hunger.
So when we go raw, the channel starts to clear and sometimes, often times, we don’t always want to hear what’s trying to come up. And it’s not even about whether or not we want others to hear it, it’s usually more often about that we ourselves don’t want to hear it. So this is where support and guidance come in, because we need to learn how to deal with these issues as they do come up – as is the natural flow of things - without feeling a compulsive desire to reach for the cake, cookies or custard tarts!
Bear this in mind if you’ve hit a wall with raw. It might just be that you’re on the verge of a major breakthrough – a whole new level of self-awareness, compassion, connection and understanding. This can be challenging to deal with alone.
If this is you, then you will need ways to handle this, otherwise you will feel inclined to do what you have always done – run back (screaming!) to the fridge, freezer or local take-away! So, starting with yourself and what you can do alone, my top piece of advice is to journal, journal, journal. Pour your heart out onto paper. Detox your feelings out of your heart, down through your arm, out through your fingers and your pen and onto the paper. Write until you’ve struck the real truth that you can no longer deny. Keep digging until you just know that you’ve been completely and brutally honest about whatever has been bringing you down. Once you’ve got that far, congratulations, the hardest work has been done – the opening up and the excavating. Great job! Next step is the owning. Take ownership of what’s real for you – without judgement. Yes, entirely without judgement. We are dealing with what’s real, remember? It’s not about right or wrong, it’s about real. And real is your version of the truth, which means it’s right for YOU. So when you know what you are dealing with, when you have held it up to the light and seen it for its good, bad and ugly, then, and only then, can you deal with it. This way freedom lies. And that extends way beyond food, and into pastures much more lush and ultimately rewarding for you as a human being – although you may have to jump a few hurdles and trawl a few mud banks first! But what’s the alternative? A lifetime spent drowning your heart in chip fat?! Been there done that! : ) And you don’t need me to tell you that it’s more fun to live a life fully alive (even if it does take a bit of effort to get there) than doing the slow waltz of the living stifled!
Your thoughts, insights, nods, shakes and/or additional comments welcomed!